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Domestic Violence. (Take a stand against it!)

Domestic violence in a social and legal concept means any sort of abuse be it physical, emotional, sexual or financial between partners living under the same roof. It refers to as an attempt by one partner upon the other in an intimate relationship[ or marriage. By domestic violence we understand that one person dominates and controls the other either sexually or emotionally. When we talk about domestic abuse, we generally talk about women being abused by male partners, but in some cases even men are victims of domestic violence, it is mostly emotional and verbal. This is rare and less severe. Domestic violence occurs in millions of houses everyday, and a huge number of these incidents go unreported. This affects the mental peace and health of the person who is the victim of the abuse. Domestic abuse not only affects the victim but also has an impact on the other members of the family, even though they are not the one suffering. It mostly affects the children who witness daily abuse o…

Your body is not wrong, society is! (Stop body shaming/No discrimination/Love yourselves and accept your flaws).

Body shaming, is the practice of criticizing or humiliating a person about their body size and weight. Passing mean comments on a person's appearance and making them feel embarrassed about themselves leaving them emotionally traumatized.


Body shaming has been continued for a long period of time. The world has a fixed mindset about the ideal body one should have. People criticize girls or boys who are "too chubby" or "too skinny" leaving them mentally disturbed and in depression. With questions like "why am i so ugly?" "why are my thighs so huge?" "why am i not slimmer?" "why am i so skinny?" "will no one love me?" "am i too bonny?", these are the thoughts which occur in one's mind. An individual is body shamed by 
parents,friends,colleagues,enemies,schoolmates and is often shown in the media. In the movie a "fat" character is often portrayed as median for comic relief. They are chosen as the subject of criticism to make people laugh. This result in low self esteem,anger,self harm.


Today, I am about to discuss my friend's experiences with body shaming. She has always been that "chubby" "broad shouldered" girl with a very yellowish indian skin tone that has been a subject of criticism from a long period of time. As she was growing up, people would compare her with her siblings and friends as they were more fair than she was, and skinny too. Everyday either a friend or some relatives would come up to her and tell her that "you have become more chubby,you should workout a little" and many other things which affected her mentally. She started hating herself. She would look at the mirror and look closely at her body and wish to look differently or like the models in the magazines. It really got to her head when a lady came up to her and told her on her face that she should try and look a little pretty. Deep down she started disliking herself for being who she was. She started cutting off on food. Tortured herself trying to look "pretty" "slim" and etc. She started getting anxiety and panic attacks for a while until she talked it out with her elder sister and then her sister helped her get out of that 'low self esteem,mind full of  insecurities' phase of her life. Her sister made her say "I love my body and I accept my flaws" everyday. After some days, the girl started focusing more on her self and ignored what others said. She started to love herself more and kept herself busy practicing self love by doing what she loved and wearing things which made her feel comfortable. She started exercising not for others but for herself and today she is the happiest and loves herself and her flaws.

Bullying and body shaming, will always be present no matter what initiatives one takes; we cannot change the perspective of people unless they want to have a different outlook of beauty. Beauty is the quality of being pleasing, especially to look at. But beauty is diverse. Everyone has their own definition of beauty. One should not be compared with another in the matter of being "ideal" or "beautiful". Though in the magazines, social media, movies they have portrayed skinny,white,tall,long hair as being pretty and an ideal woman; who are desired by men, it is not the case, everyone is beautiful in their own ways. And there are always men who do not have a prejudiced thought and will accept you the way you are and will love your flaws. Just because someone doesn't fir that "ideal image" doesn't mean they are any less. While we discuss about women being victims of body shaming their are a few cases where men have also been targeted.

     Men and women, both should stick up for themselves in a positive and healthy way. You should try to avoid the negative comments and try not to get too bothered by it. Start practicing self love. Do not care about what others say, it is your body and your life, you should like and not everyone else. Start accepting your flaws because that is the uniqueness of yourself. That is what makes you different from others. Start accepting yourself and your body do thing like exercising, following a proper skin care to make yourself comfortable in your own skin. Do not be harsh on yourself. LOVE YOURSELF!

Lastly, I wanted to point out all the races,ethnicities,cultures and body types are beautiful and we need to stop idealizing a certain image.

 
  



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    SAY NO TO BODY SHAMING!

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